When you have a tween, just about the only ammo you have in your arsenal is to take something away when they don't comply with your demands.
Right now it's taking away the beloved iPod or not allowing her to go on an excursion with friends.
But this article talks about how timeouts, reward charts and taking the toys away can backfire, because it's all about exclusion and isolating the kid instead of creating a connection that can help them understand your side better.
So far, taking away things is what works. It really makes her shape up and do the dishes, walk the dog and just generally be an active human instead of someone who is sewed to her mattress.
So what do you think? What works for you for your tweens and teens in terms of motivation?
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